BE POSITIVE WITH LIFE QUOTES : #SMILE

BE POSITIVE WITH LIFE QUOTES: #SMILE  

I am always amazed by the strength of one simple action 'SMILE'. A genuine smile that comes from our heart and reaches the depths of our eyes has the power to heal. A smile has the ability to brighten the gloomiest days, comfort a painful heart and melt the hardest of individuals . I have seen it to inspire people enough to keep them going despite all odds. So friends , keep smiling. Who knows, you might brighten up someone's life :)

Real and genuine smiles comfort.

Don't cry because it is over. Smile because it happened

Success comes to those who persevere with a smile.

Smile. Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday 

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BE POSITIVE WITH LIFE QUOTES : #LIFE

                                                         

Unconditional love

The sun never says to the earth, you owe me. Look what happens with a love like that, it lights up the whole sky.

Positive Attitude

Talking about our problems is our greatest addiction.Break the habit.Talk about your joys.

Life

Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumble bee,the small child and the smiling faces. Smell the rain and feel the wind. Live your life to the fullest potential and fight for your dreams.

© Dr.Moninder Kaur 2014

Lessons learnt in life

Lessons learnt in life

  

    I am always amazed by life. Each second that unfolds brings with it a fresh new moment that needs to be felt and lived. Today, when I look back, I realize that ‘life’ is my best teacher. Each person I met, each incident that happened, each path that I traversed, had a purpose – To make me a better individual who is at peace with her own self. Today I feel like sharing some of the lessons I have learnt in life, some lessons that have given me the power to be positive in life. A voice within me says that these lessons can do the same for you

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1. There is something very positive about life, it passes.

Life is a mix of good times and bad times but nothing lasts forever. Sun sets, moon rises. Seasons change. Winter is always followed by summer. Night always makes way for the day. Facing tough times? Don’t worry they will not last long. Feeling too happy and content? Don’t get too attached as this too shall pass. Enjoy the cocktail ….. It’s life.

2. Let go of what you no longer need.

I learnt this the tough way. We like to form attachments in life. It could be objects, places, people, thoughts, ideas, beliefs….. There is actually nothing to be gained from clinging to past failures, old grudges, feelings that hurt you, people or relationships you cannot relate to… Let them go. Donate your old clothes, delete your old mails, clean your desk…. Keep your thoughts, relationships, home, work area etc. clutter free. This surely makes life simple and more interesting.

3. Learn to feel and live the present moment

I feel that there is some magic in the present moment. Feel it, experience it, live it. Be thankful that you are alive and breathing. Be hopeful as you have the power to build your future by making judicious use of present. The past is gone and future cannot be seen. The present is precious. Live it. Feel like doing something, do it now.

4. Raise a child

I have learnt a lot from children. Their simplicity, curiosity and innocence are infectious. Being a parent has made me more responsible, compassionate and empathic. I have something to look forward to each day. The simple routines that I share with my children make my life more meaningful. I feel immense pleasure and satisfaction that I have done my part in the world by raising kids who are strong enough to make positive contributions in creating a future world that would be better than today. You can feel the same pleasure and satisfaction. Go ahead, raise a child.

5. Having a hobby is therapeutic

Life becomes tough at times. There are certain phases and issues in life which are too personal to share with someone yet have the power to erode us from within. Develop a hobby. Its therapeutic and the best way to release the secret passions from within. It could be anything… reading, writing, painting, music, meditation, art and craft, cooking, gardening… The list is endless. Understand what you like and spend some time daily with your ‘hobby’. Cultivate your positive interests. I can assure, nothing more is needed.

6. Stay connected to your roots

Imagine a tree. It has so many branches, leaves, flowers and fruits. Life thrives in its parts till they are connected to the roots. Same can be related to us. We have to move on from our parental homes in pursuit of personal growth and development. This is a necessity but stay connected to your parents and family. In today’s scenario it’s really very easy. A small message, a simple phone call can do the trick. Regular visits are the icing on the cake. The thought that we have someone in life to fall back to, gives us immense strength to face the day to day challenges in our life.

7. Relationships are a part of life, not life

In my clinical practice I come across many people. I have seen that people who get hurt most are the ones who make relationships their main priority in life. This gives rise to profound expectations. When expectations are not met, feelings get hurt and the associated pain is very deep. If we want to live a happy life it’s always better to focus on some personal goal and not to people or objects.

8. Be Generative

I became aware of this term when I studied the stages of development by Erik Erikson and I immediately got bowled over by it. Being generative is establishing and guiding the next generation. It includes being productive and creative. Raising a positive family or working towards the betterment of society is being generative and gives a deep satisfaction of accomplishment.

   By giving us a chance to be born as a human, God has given us the ability to explore, understand and learn from life. Be soft. Do not let the world rob you of your compassion and faith to make you hard. Do not let the pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though many in the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place.

    Every life has a story. I am sure you also have some lessons that you have learnt from life. I would appreciate if you could share your thoughts in the comment box below. Maybe together we can touch a few hearts and inspire a few fellow beings towards a more positive life.

© Dr.Moninder kaur 2013

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BE POSITIVE WITH LIFE QUOTES: FLOWERS

BE POSITIVE WITH LIFE QUOTES: FLOWERS

Flowers are the gifts of nature. We find them blooming all around us; sometimes at very strange places. They grace all the important occasions in our life. They have the power to lift our mood and make us feel positive. Touched by their power to influence us, I share today some beautiful pictures with some inspiring quotes.

                 The flower that blooms in adversity is the rarest and most beautiful of all.

Instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers, Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul.

Your mind is a garden, your thoughts are seeds…You can grow flowers, or you can grow weeds.

Bloom where you are planted

Even the prettiest flower will die one day. It’s the nature’s way of teaching us that nothing lasts forever.

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Soul Affirmations

   Soul Affirmations

There is a place, deep down in our heart, where we secretly keep all those things that touch us deep, really deep. These little secrets have a habit of popping up from that secret reservoir within our heart, consciously or subconsciously. These are our precious memories that have the power to influence our thoughts…. feelings…..and….. finally our actions. Today I want to share something from the depths of my heart. It’s a short story. It is a powerful story. So powerful, that it has stayed with me, all these years. When you read it you will understand why it is so special to me and why do I narrate it whenever I feel the need to inspire someone. I can promise you something, when you read the complete story….. You might do the same.

The story

       Anna stood up as soon as the surgeon came out of the operating room. Her eyes asked many questions but all she could say in a choked voice was: “How is my little son? When can I see him?”         

  “I am sorry, we did all we could but the little chap did not make it.”Replied the surgeon.                             

  “Why do little children get cancer?” cried Anna. “Don’t you care about us God? Where were you when we needed you the most?”

“You can spend some time with your son. The nurses will be out in a moment. Later he will be transported to medical college.” Said the surgeon, gently.

      

  Anna requested one nurse to stay with her while she said final goodbye to her son, Sam. Lovingly she ran her fingers through his thick curly hair. Gently she caressed his face. “It was Sam’s idea to donate his body for the students of medicine. Initially I was offended by the idea. But he insisted. “said Anna. Sam had said, “I won’t be using it after I die. May be it will help some other boy to live some more days.”            

 “My son, Sam had a heart of gold.” said a proud mother. Then it was time to leave.

    

  She proudly walked out of the hospital, with her head held high. It was the place where she had fought some toughest battles of her life in the past six months. She put Sam’s belonging on the seat beside her. Driving home was difficult. It was even harder to enter the empty house. She carried the plastic bag with Sam’s belongings into his room. She placed his model cars, colors …. And other personal stuff exactly the way he liked to keep. Then she lay down on his bed, hugged his pillow and cried herself to sleep.

Anna woke up from sleep around midnight. Beside her on the bed was a neatly folded letter. It said,

“Dear Mom,

I know you’re going to miss me; but don’t think that I will ever forget you, or stop loving you, just ’cause I’m not around to say I LOVE YOU. I will always love you, Mom, even more with each day. Someday we will see each other again. Until then, if you want to adopt a little boy so you won’t be so lonely, that’s okay with me. He can have my room and old stuff to play with. But, if you decide to get a girl instead, she probably wouldn’t like the same things we boys do. You’ll have to buy her dolls and stuff girls like, you know.

   

 Don’t be sad thinking about me. This really is a neat place. Grandma and Grandpa met me as soon as I got here and showed me around, but it will take a long time to see everything. The angels are so cool. I love to watch them fly. And, you know what? Jesus doesn’t look like any of his pictures. Yet, when I saw Him, I knew it was Him. Jesus himself took me to see GOD! And guess what, Mom? I got to sit on God’s knee and talk to Him, like I was somebody important. That’s when I told Him that I wanted to write you a letter, to tell you good-bye and everything. But I already knew that wasn’t allowed. Well, you know what Mom? God handed me some paper and His own personal pen to write you this letter. I think Gabriel is the name of the angel who is going to drop this letter off to you. God said for me to give you the answer to one of the questions you asked Him ‘Where was He when I needed him?’ “God said He was in the same place with me, as when His son Jesus was on the cross. He was right there, as He always is with all His children.

   

  Oh, I almost forgot to tell you. I don’t hurt anymore. The cancer is all gone. I’m glad because I couldn’t stand that pain anymore and God couldn’t stand to see me hurt so much, either. That’s when He sent The Angel of Mercy to come get me. The Angel said I was a Special Delivery! How about that?

Signed with Love from: God, Jesus & Me.”

It was the most beautiful dream of Anna’s Life and she knew it will stay with her; always.

     

    God has a reason for allowing things to happen….. We may never understand His wisdom but we simply have to trust His will. He has a plan for each one of us. Being our Father, he will always do his best for us. Everybody has tough times in life and we often question “Why Us”. We are just a part of the bigger picture, not the whole picture. The essence to a satisfied life lies in accepting this fact. Take one step at a time, live each moment when it comes; stop blaming others or your own self for your problems. Inner peace begins when you choose not to allow an event or some person to control your emotions. One cannot give up on life. One has to gather strength, find ways and move on. Falling down is a part of life. To get up and start walking again is living life.

 Get up and keep walking on the road called ……Life.

                                    Keep walking, Be Strong, Be Positive J

© 2013 Dr.Moninder Kaur

Inspirations for life : Silent Warriors

Inspirations for life : Silent Warriors

  Today was her third visit to my clinic. She used to come once in a week. A  middle aged ,smart looking, individual who had come looking for comfort in the peaceful world of Ayurveda with a desire to find freedom from headache that refused to go. She said, she had no energy in her, nothing much to look forward to in her life. I looked into her eyes. I missed the glow of satisfaction in them. I felt, the medication won’t help her much unless I counseled her towards a more positive outlook………

   

She is just an example of many individuals who at some point of life have felt that they have no enthusiasm to move on in life, who have lost hope and faith towards a better tomorrow, whose past experiences have left enough impressions to make them ignore their present and be not so enthusiastic about future. But there is more to life. We need to look beyond our own emotions,  towards  people who have enough faith to keep going ……..despite all odds.

Today’s article is a tribute to all such people around us, who have the potential to take life as it comes, who have mastered the art of living in the present moment, who have found  their own way  to subtly challenge life, who have risen above the need to be dependent on someone other than their own self for their happiness. They are the people who have promised to themselves that they will never give up

  

  I call them ‘Silent Warriors’. I know many but I will share about only three such people today.

   

The couple had been trying to have a child of their own from the past many years. The lady had two miscarriages and one still birth. She was pregnant again . That day ,the medical examination  revealed, their  conceived child had some genetic defect . They should not continue the pregnancy. It  was terminated. Doctors advised that she should not try to conceive again, it was not safe for her. The life had come to a standstill. Their strongest desire of being a parent would never come true.. Their genuine desire had given them the courage to challenge the destiny. It was the lowest point of their life and at that moment they took a decision. They decided; they will not  give up. The couple adopted two children as it would complete their family. Twenty Years have passed since then  and they could experience the joy of being  parents ,for they chose ‘not to give up’.

 Every morning I go for a walk in a nearby park. The park is well maintained and has a reputation for having most beautiful seasonal flowers . A walk in this park is considered therapeutic due to well maintained lawns, beautiful flowers and the pleasant aroma that surrounds you even after you have left the park. Every day I noticed a man , must be in his sixties, watering the plants. He would be there every day. I got interested in him due to the satisfaction and joy shown on his face while he was watering the plants. I was curious. He did not look like a Gardner. He was there every day, same time…. On some days when I did not feel like going for a walk, I went , just to check if he was there. And yes he would be there. At times I felt jealous of the contentment reflected on his face. I often wondered , how could watering plants in a park make someone so happy? Unable to control my curiosity I sought the answer from him. The answer was a revelation. Two years back he lost his only son in an accident. His son was engaged to be married. They were planning his wedding. The shock was too much for the couple to cope. Days changed into months but they were finding it difficult to accept that the centre of their life was no more. He was retired  thus could not seek the solace of his work. Then one day while sitting in this park he felt his son was around and wanted them to be happy. That day he decided to  'take charge of his life'. He ‘adopted’ the park and started to take care of it. Now he had something to take care of. Decisions like what to plant, how to plant etc. kept him occupied. His love and care made the park alive . The park blossomed and so did their lives. It lifted the sadness away from their home.

  Our news paper lands at our doorstep every morning at 6.30 a.m. I had got used to reading paper with my early morning cup of tea. Suddenly the time of newspaper delivery  started to fluctuate. I could not take it anymore after a week and called the newspaper vendor to complain. The phone was answered by his son. He informed that his father had a paralytic attack . He would not be able to deliver news paper any more so they have hired a boy to fulfill the job. I felt sad for him. Five months passed. I still missed the old man because his punctual delivery gave a relaxed start to my day. It was sixth month since that phone conversation. Then, the news paper started to arrive again at 6.30 a.m. in morning. Initially I thought they must have hired someone new. Overwhelmed by the timely delivery for almost a week now , I decided to praise the new delivery boy. Next morning  I waited for him outside our gate. I was surprised by what I saw. It was ‘Him’ again. His gait revealed what he had gone through. I had no words. He smiled at me. I could feel the water at the back of my eyes. He spoke. He said, he felt he simply could not imagine himself bound to bed all his life. He had suffered attack on his left side. Doctors had said that seeing his age , chances of recovery were low. But he decided, ‘not to give up’. He had a keen desire to ride his cycle and deliver the news paper. So he gave paralysis a tough fight and won. Hats off to him!

I have no more words. Compared to these ‘Silent Warriors’ my problems seem insignificant. These silent warriors exist all around us, sometimes very near to us, but so engulfed are we in our own sorrows that we are unable to see them, feel them. Look beyond your tears. The world has a lot to offer. I draw my strength from these silent warriors. I salute them for their courage , optimism and positive strength. When feeling low, just sit back, relax and look for silent warriors around you. If this does not work , seek professional help but NEVER LOOSE HOPE AND NEVER GIVE UP ON LIFE.

© 2013 Dr.Moninder Kaur